I was out with my good friend yesterday. We were feeling really bored and wanted to kill time, thus we decided to watch a movie. We were suppose to watch some thriller movie but because there wasn't any available time slot, we settled for Hancock.
I heard the show was okay, and I just wanted to watch something to entertain myself. The starting was really funny and we sort of expected some funny/ not-possible-to-happen-stuns-for-normal-humans. But as the show went on, it started getting sad. Especially the part when Hancock explained how no one "claimed" him from the hospital. Upon hearing the story, the guy's wife in the movie, Mary, had tears in her eyes. We could all guess that they had something going on before. And it turned out that she was one of his kind too. Mary had superpowers just like Hancock. It was suppose to be a comedy movie, it still is, but then I cried during the movie!
I guess this movie is about a typical superhero, saving people from villians only to stumble upon their past. But it wasn't the usual fairytale ending. Mary (the girl with superpowers) didn't end up with Hancock. But at the end of the movie, Hancock turned over a new leaf.
Sunday, July 6, 2008
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Knapp's Relational Development Model
(Part II of previous post!)
Knapp Model of Relational Development (by Mark Knapp) - explains the development of a relationship as a series of 10 stages in 2 phases; namely, Coming Together and Coming Apart.
Coming together:
1. Initiating
2. Experimenting
3. Intensifying
4. Integrating
5. Bonding
Coming Apart:
6. Differentiaitng
7. Circumscrbing
8. Stagnating
9. Avoiding
10. Termination.
MRS. Cannon, or not?!
The news from CNN.
The news from E! entertainment's E! news.
So apparently, it is true. Mariah is married, AGAIN. This time to a guy 11 years younger than her! I didn't know that till my friend had to tell me!
Anyway, in Singapore or Asia, this happens rarely. Apparently not in The States, Europe and HOLLYWOOD. Its so predictable that they're going to divorce in less than 6 months or a year, because the "honeymoon" period usually lasts from 3-6 months.
True enough, they're now going through troubled times, and will most probably get a divorce, soon. This goes to show how they could not get along. Sources said that Nick could not conform to her whims and fancy, and he was constantly at her beck and call. Well, I guess Mariah's really high-handed and high maintainence.
Divorce rates are getting higher and higher nowadays and I must say that's quite appalling. Don't get me wrong now, I don't have anything against divorce. In fact, I'm cool with it. In my opinion, if a couple can't get along well, it's useless no matter how hard they try, because it will only agrievate the situation and their relationship might turn sour.
I guess the reason for such acts of divorce is because couples commit, without thinking twice. No doubt there are many things to consider, but I generally feel that interpersonal communication is the most important factor. Without understanding the other half, one might just go crazy once married. Take Nick for example, they knew each other just for a week, and dated for 2 months, then got married instantly. I feel it's too big of a jump!
The Knapp's Relational Development Model is a good model to look at.
The news from E! entertainment's E! news.
So apparently, it is true. Mariah is married, AGAIN. This time to a guy 11 years younger than her! I didn't know that till my friend had to tell me!
Anyway, in Singapore or Asia, this happens rarely. Apparently not in The States, Europe and HOLLYWOOD. Its so predictable that they're going to divorce in less than 6 months or a year, because the "honeymoon" period usually lasts from 3-6 months.
True enough, they're now going through troubled times, and will most probably get a divorce, soon. This goes to show how they could not get along. Sources said that Nick could not conform to her whims and fancy, and he was constantly at her beck and call. Well, I guess Mariah's really high-handed and high maintainence.
Divorce rates are getting higher and higher nowadays and I must say that's quite appalling. Don't get me wrong now, I don't have anything against divorce. In fact, I'm cool with it. In my opinion, if a couple can't get along well, it's useless no matter how hard they try, because it will only agrievate the situation and their relationship might turn sour.
I guess the reason for such acts of divorce is because couples commit, without thinking twice. No doubt there are many things to consider, but I generally feel that interpersonal communication is the most important factor. Without understanding the other half, one might just go crazy once married. Take Nick for example, they knew each other just for a week, and dated for 2 months, then got married instantly. I feel it's too big of a jump!
The Knapp's Relational Development Model is a good model to look at.
Friday, June 20, 2008
High context culture; Low context culture, Anyone?!
The big difference.
In Singapore and many Asian countries, we were brought up in a high context culture. Asians tend to be more conservative, the usual lady-like etiquettes. How not talking, being demure, no-one-will-say-u're-dumb-if-you-not-talk "saying" and only dumb people talk alot.
In my opinion, I feel this is irrelevant to any etiquettes. Different people have different perception and we can't force our perception onto them.
I prefer low context culture, because it is more lively. It gets me in my mood. A happy and lively mood because there is always something to say. American can never run out of things to say. I feel that's amazing because how can anyone talk so much without repeating any of their stories twice?
I also know for a fact that people who are brought up in a high context culture (or vice versa) can't get along with the other party.
In Singapore and many Asian countries, we were brought up in a high context culture. Asians tend to be more conservative, the usual lady-like etiquettes. How not talking, being demure, no-one-will-say-u're-dumb-if-you-not-talk "saying" and only dumb people talk alot.
In my opinion, I feel this is irrelevant to any etiquettes. Different people have different perception and we can't force our perception onto them.
I prefer low context culture, because it is more lively. It gets me in my mood. A happy and lively mood because there is always something to say. American can never run out of things to say. I feel that's amazing because how can anyone talk so much without repeating any of their stories twice?
I also know for a fact that people who are brought up in a high context culture (or vice versa) can't get along with the other party.
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Bon Qui Qui @ King Burger!
Okay, this video is really funny right? If this situation happen to me for real, I bet I'll probably just start laughing like nobody's business. Then again, I do not think we'll see this situation for real, because this is from MadTV (Some funny video company, something like Ameica's funniest home video.
Enjoy! :)
Sunday, June 1, 2008
Sarcastism!
I was with my friend in the toilet a few days back, and this other girl walked in. She went up to my friend and complimented my friend's outfit in a way that didn't seem quite right. We could see her facial expression when she commented on my friend's outfit. Obviously, she was beening sarcastic. So, my friend and I gave her back a BIG fake smile and said "thanks".
So happens this week's topic is about encoding and decoding messages. I was thinking back, and I wondered if my friend and I didn't get her sarcastic comment, what would the outcome be? Would we be labelled as dumb? Well, I definitely think so. There's the quote that says, "Language gives us the power to affect others. But language also exerts power over us.". Well, I so agree with this quote! The way we speak, the tone and volume affects us in a way of how we're feeling, and it sends the vibe to the other party. The other party decodes the message to know what we're feeling. Sometimes, we send the wrong vibe, but sometimes, the other party decodes the message wrongly too. Language is like a symbol/ tool, and only people of the same educational level and frequency can understand each other. Thus, able to decode the message how we're trying to put it across. Of course, we have to encode the message properly too!
Hence, I feel that the lessons every week helps me have a better idea of communications and it stimulates my mind by making me ask questions to myself.
So happens this week's topic is about encoding and decoding messages. I was thinking back, and I wondered if my friend and I didn't get her sarcastic comment, what would the outcome be? Would we be labelled as dumb? Well, I definitely think so. There's the quote that says, "Language gives us the power to affect others. But language also exerts power over us.". Well, I so agree with this quote! The way we speak, the tone and volume affects us in a way of how we're feeling, and it sends the vibe to the other party. The other party decodes the message to know what we're feeling. Sometimes, we send the wrong vibe, but sometimes, the other party decodes the message wrongly too. Language is like a symbol/ tool, and only people of the same educational level and frequency can understand each other. Thus, able to decode the message how we're trying to put it across. Of course, we have to encode the message properly too!
Hence, I feel that the lessons every week helps me have a better idea of communications and it stimulates my mind by making me ask questions to myself.
Saturday, May 24, 2008
Is it listening, or is it hearing?
Some people say listening is more important than hearing. Others feel that the two words means the same.
Many people whom I've known of have been debating about this for a very long time. But because each of them have a definite meaning of each word, this topic never really came to an end. I didn't really manage to figure out what each word really meant till communications class this week.
Well, we constantly hear sounds all the time and we make noises. Be it talking to friends, listening to music or when we sit in for our lectures, we have to use our ears. When we are concentrating on something, we are actually listening and focusing on the subject itself. Unlike hearing, when we can choose to block out and not focus on these random noises we hear constantly.
Now, these are few points why I feel listening is so important in our lives.
Firstly, listening more effectively always has benefits and it is essential in both our professional and personal lives. Becoming a better listener enhances job performances and it is also the most vital skill for accomplishing workplace task (E.g. Marketing). Listening is also essential in creating and maintaining friendships. One of the major characteristics that attracts us to others in the first place is their willingness to listen. This makes the other party feel important and valued. When people refuses to listen, they send a message that they don't care for us, that we don't exist for them. well, I mean everyone likes the other party to pay attention when they speak. This shows their sincerity.
Thus, the weightage of listening is definitely more than hearing.
Many people whom I've known of have been debating about this for a very long time. But because each of them have a definite meaning of each word, this topic never really came to an end. I didn't really manage to figure out what each word really meant till communications class this week.
Well, we constantly hear sounds all the time and we make noises. Be it talking to friends, listening to music or when we sit in for our lectures, we have to use our ears. When we are concentrating on something, we are actually listening and focusing on the subject itself. Unlike hearing, when we can choose to block out and not focus on these random noises we hear constantly.
Now, these are few points why I feel listening is so important in our lives.
Firstly, listening more effectively always has benefits and it is essential in both our professional and personal lives. Becoming a better listener enhances job performances and it is also the most vital skill for accomplishing workplace task (E.g. Marketing). Listening is also essential in creating and maintaining friendships. One of the major characteristics that attracts us to others in the first place is their willingness to listen. This makes the other party feel important and valued. When people refuses to listen, they send a message that they don't care for us, that we don't exist for them. well, I mean everyone likes the other party to pay attention when they speak. This shows their sincerity.
Thus, the weightage of listening is definitely more than hearing.
Thursday, May 15, 2008
The things that make you sad, without knowing
Sometimes, I wonder what triggers us to feel emotional suddenly. I've always felt that as long as we do not think about the negative side, and have a optimistic mindset, everything will be okay.
The other day, I was reading up on my communications textbook and then I crossed this phrase, "Every move I make affects you, and every move you make affects me.", "... we cannot not communicate. If a friend promises to write to you and doesn't, his or her silence speaks louder than words. You realize that your friend doesn't want to continue the relationship. It is impossible not to communicate, just as it is impossible not to behave.". It totally struck me. Suddenly, memories of the past started filling my mind rapidly and I couldn't help but feel sad. Then I realised feeling sad is totally beyond our control, and as much as we don't want to feel sad, we'll still experience it somehow or rather.
Some people might not agree to the phrase I've just quoted, as different people have different perceptions. But for me, it truly applies. Emotions are part and parcel of life, and we can't do without them.
The other day, I was reading up on my communications textbook and then I crossed this phrase, "Every move I make affects you, and every move you make affects me.", "... we cannot not communicate. If a friend promises to write to you and doesn't, his or her silence speaks louder than words. You realize that your friend doesn't want to continue the relationship. It is impossible not to communicate, just as it is impossible not to behave.". It totally struck me. Suddenly, memories of the past started filling my mind rapidly and I couldn't help but feel sad. Then I realised feeling sad is totally beyond our control, and as much as we don't want to feel sad, we'll still experience it somehow or rather.
Some people might not agree to the phrase I've just quoted, as different people have different perceptions. But for me, it truly applies. Emotions are part and parcel of life, and we can't do without them.
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